By Joy Life changers
It is often said, “Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are”, while other saying states that “Birds of the same feather flock together”.
Greatness usually does not occur in isolation, it is people who make other people great. We have this occur in different ways, like references, recommendations, promotions, patronage and king making, just to mention a few.
In other words, nobody succeeds without other people. Influence is usually given in measures to everyone and then it is developed and continuously measured using people. Response, demand and likeness of the people and from the people simply determines how successful or influential one is rated.
So, knowing how important this is, the question becomes, how do I build great and strategic relationships in my life? It is important to note that people who respect or regard relationships often go very far in life than people who disregard and spite people or abuse relationships.
A trend in our society is how some people flock around you, when they need you or need you to do something for them and then once they get what they want, it looks as though you never even existed. This is the reason why some people’s successes are short lived and their growth also not consistent.
I often tell people, what goes around, comes around, so be careful what you throw around. If you throw mean and nasty around, you can be sure mean and nasty will come around sometime, and if you throw ingratitude and selfishness around, it will also come back around and it might bite you. If you throw betrayal and cheating around, it might come back at you when you least expect it. So watch carefully what you are throwing around.
Take a minute to ponder on this; what is my reputation with people? How am I perceived or judged in my circle of friends and also by those with whom I have served and for whom I have worked for? What is their testimony of me and what taste have I left in their mouth?
Building great relationships begins with you. Your character and reputation will go a long way to determine if people will want to initiate or maintain a relationship with you.
Are you a serious minded person? Do you have a vision? Are you diligent? Do you serve faithfully? Are you a committed and loyal friend or are you a good weather buddy?
How you answer the above questions actually speaks volume of your personality and character. It takes a great person to build a great relationship. Are you a great person? Are you a great friend? Are you a great boss? Are you a great employee?
Well, I know people do not become great by themselves, that’s why I recommend that you go out of your way to go to places that build you and add to you. Hang around people who inspire positivity from the inside of you. Learn to be who you want people to be to you and I guarantee you that you will be surrounded by greatness.
Being strategic is also key in building great relationships. For someone who wants to be an exemplary politician, it is important to research those who have been exemplary over time as well, and not to go with the thugs in politics.
For someone who wants to be a great actor in the movie industry likewise, whose step do I want to follow in? This is a question that if answered will guide you in choosing right and positioning yourself strategically for not just a great relationship but also with it, a fruitful career.
Pushing, guiding or facilitating positive friendships for others is another way of building great relationships. You ask “How does that work?” You know how sometimes you know or have a friend who needs to meet someone in a particular field of endeavour but hasn’t being able to yet? Now what if you stumble upon a person like that? Even though you don’t need that friendship directly, but being that you know someone who will be greatly delighted to meet them, you go out of your way and make this friend, just for the sole purpose of connecting them with your friend. You have facilitated the meeting.
This act will be cherished for a long time to come but above all, you know what? That gesture might be reciprocated at one point or the other in your lifetime. And when it comes to that time, no matter how inconveniencing it is for them, once they remember how you did it once for them, they go out of their way to make it happen for you.
My conclusion is this; to have and build great relationships in the walk of life; one must be great in every way! Greatness will attract greatness and also give birth to greatness! ….Be a Life Changer!!!
