My people say that being over excited is foolishness, therefore, one has to keep emotions on-check. People have different interpretations of affection which is why I used “erotic” and I have no intentions of sexualising this piece of writing. I write as a Nigerian, an Igbo man.
My people say that public eyes never blink, moral values is the water that grows my community, and discipline remains the root. Immorality bleeds my community, while the society thrives. Groping of each other in family gatherings, and half naked asoebi girls twerking in front of kids is embarrassing. Sex in the public is now news, kissing in restaurants, and making films while kissing your spouse and posting online for the public to see are not signs of affection but immaturity. Lust is not love, love is invaluable. It is immeasurable. Love may be blind, but a blind-love is a sign of immaturity, you have to see with your eyes and feel with the heart.
Holding hands in your workplace is not necessary, one must have respect for their job. You can hold hands in restaurants. Hugging is not necessary in restaurants. Kissing in a restaurant is a sign of immaturity and lack of respect for your spouse and the people around you. The best of us break character from time-to-time, losing emotions, a moment of foolishness indeed.
Maturity is many things, embracing and taking responsibility is a huge part of it. Discipline is the root of maturity. A disciplined spouse will not touch their partner inappropriately in public, a disciplined spouse will beat the urge to caress their partner in public.
Anywhere apart from your bedroom is public. Showing off your spouse to the public is healthy for the relationship, but I do not want to know how you kiss and caress the person who left the house with you, 30 minutes ago, and be home together at the end of the day. Public show of affection is healthy, mind your environment, children are everywhere, and these are things kids should not see.