Complexities of modern motherhood

breastfeeding mother

Breastfeeding is widely recognised as the optimal form of nutrition for infants; however, in recent times, there has been a noticeable decline in breastfeeding, a trend among modern and working class mothers. BLESSING OKOLA explores some of the key reasons and the implications.

Modern motherhood is increasingly getting complicated. Experts have recommended that for the health of infants, mothers should breastfeed babies for a maximum of six months; however, for some reasons, many mothers find it difficult to adhere to this prescription.

The struggle to balance work and motherhood

One major obstacle many mothers face is the challenge of balancing work and breastfeeding. With increasing numbers of women in the workforce, many mothers find it difficult to continue breastfeeding once they return to their jobs after maternity leave. 

Lack of supportive policies such as paid maternity leave and breastfeeding-friendly workplaces can make it hard for mothers to maintain their breastfeeding and baby care responsibility.

Again, breastfeeding in public remains a contentious issue in many societies. Despite its natural benefits, some mothers feel uncomfortable when nursing in public. Some of them also feel shy as a result of derisive or amused onlookers. This stigma can discourage mothers from breastfeeding.

Why some also have personal choice and individual circumstances, every mother’s situation is unique, and some may choose not to breastfeed due to personal preferences or circumstances. 

Whether it’s due to medical conditions, difficulties with lactation, or simply a personal choice, mothers should be supported in their decisions regarding feeding their babies.

Importance of support and education

Inadequate support from healthcare providers, family and friends can also play a significant role in a mother’s decision to breastfeed. Education and resources wherewithal to maintain consistency in nursing babies, as well as emotional support, are crucial in helping mothers to navigate their feeding choices.

In an interview with Mrs. Sunday, Gydina village in the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) shared her perspective on why she did not exclusively breastfeed her children.

She said she is a busy entrepreneur and as a businesswoman, she is often on the go, restocking her shop in various markets. “If I had to exclusively breastfeed for six months, it would have been challenging to manage my business. In today’s Nigerian economy, it’s essential to be proactive”, she said.

“I have four children, and none of them were exclusively breastfed; yet, they’re all smart, brilliant and are doing well. I believe it’s not just about breastfeeding; upbringing plays a significant role in a child’s development”, she explained. 

According to her, during her pregnancy with her youngest child, the doctors suggested that she should introduce water or formula if needed.

“I think it’s unrealistic to expect every mother to exclusively breastfeed, especially those struggling financially. It can be draining for the mother, both physically and emotionally. My children are a testament to the fact that there’s more to a child’s intelligence and well-being than just breastfeeding”, she said.

In another interview with Mrs. Dauda, a mother of three who recently gave birth to a baby boy, shared her experience with exclusive breastfeeding. 

She said despite the challenges, she chose to breastfeed her son exclusively, motivated by the numerous benefits she has learned from the hospital during antenatal. 

She informed that according to the doctor who educated them, “exclusive breastfeeding builds a child’s immune system, helps fight diseases, and reduces the need for vaccines. 

“I want my child to be smart, brave and healthy. Given the current state of health in Nigeria, with various viruses and illnesses around, I believe this is the best decision for my child’s well-being.

“Although it’s not easy, especially in the first few weeks, I’m willing to face the struggle. Sleep deprivation and constant attention to the baby’s needs can be stressful, but I know it’s worth it. As a mother, there’s no greater joy than seeing my child thrive and being resistant to illnesses.

“I’d rather put in the effort now and ensure my child’s health and safety in the long run. Frequent hospital visits can be avoided if I take this step, and that’s a relief for me. It’s a short-term challenge for a lifetime of benefits”, she said.

Also, Mr. Blessing Haruna said many factors have contributed to women choosing not to breastfeed their babies. 

According to him, some prioritise their careers, leaving childcare to nannies, while others are concerned about the impact on their physical appearance. However, breastfeeding is not just about nourishment; it’s also about bonding between mother and child.

“In the past, women understood the importance of breastfeeding, and it was a natural part of motherhood. Today, with the availability of formula milk, some women opt out of breastfeeding altogether”, he said. 

He explained that “research suggests that breastfed babies have better health outcomes and stronger immune systems.

“Breastfeeding also has benefits for mothers, including reduced risk of breast cancer. It’s a natural process that provides numerous benefits for both mother and child. As one wise elder once advised me, allowing children to breastfeed can have long-term benefits for their health and development.

“Ultimately, the decision to breastfeed is a personal one. However, it’s essential to consider the potential consequences of not breastfeeding, both for the mother’s and child’s health.”

Again, Mrs. Ugo popularly known as Mummy Chikamso stated that the hunger and inability to meet daily dietary needs have hindered her ability to breastfeed her under-six-month-old child exclusively.

She noted that she has resorted to supplementing breast milk by giving her baby water and locally made foods such as pap.

She emphasised that even if mothers cannot afford a balanced diet due to rising food costs, she can still produce enough breast milk if the baby latches on properly.

To ensure equal access to breastfeeding support, the World Health Organisation (WHO) and the United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF) called for improving global breastfeeding rates on Thursday.

In a joint statement signed by UNICEF’s Executive Director, Catherine Russell, and WHO’s Director-General, Tedros Ghebreyesus, in honour of World Breastfeeding Week, they highlighted that over the last 12 years, only 48 per cent of infants worldwide have been exclusively breastfed.

An article by World Vision International titled “Making Breastfeeding Work in a Hunger Crisis” noted that stress, hunger, and disruptions to daily routines make breastfeeding challenging.

It mentioned that stress could affect the flow of a mother’s milk, making infants fussy, which can be misinterpreted as an insufficient milk supply.

Ultimately, the decision to breastfeed or not is a personal one that should be respected and supported. By understanding the complexities surrounding breastfeeding, there is a need for a mechanism towards creating a supportive environment for mothers. 

This includes promoting breastfeeding-friendly policies, providing education and resources, and fostering a culture that values and respects mothers’ choices.