By Joy Lifechangers
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Last week, I began to discuss the importance of temperaments as it relates with our desire to succeed in life. The average person wants to succeed, but does not know what to do and what not to in order for success to become their reality.
The four basic temperaments have helped a lot of people find a way to maximize their strengths and minimize the damage their weaknesses has the potential to work on their journey to success.
Last week, I began with the Sanguine, and this week we’ll look at the rocky Choleric. The Choleric has a few similarities with Sanguine. The Choleric is also an extrovert by nature, a leader, a pioneer. But unlike the Sanguine, he is a finisher. He is goal oriented and always determined to finish what he has started so he can move quickly to the next project.
Cholerics are known to thrive in constant activity; they make good project managers. They are achievers and seldom quit regardless of other people’s opinion.
Their weakness, however, is that they don’t mind whose toes they step on or whose feeling they hurt as long as they accomplish their objective. A choleric, therefore, will most times leave a trail of people hurt or victimized by ego. A choleric can also be easily irritated as they are difficult to please. Anger is always near and often present in their expression of disappointment or failure to meet up with their expectations.
A choleric, if not blended with one of the other softer temperaments, is terrible at romance because he is hardly in touch with his emotions as he works more with his will power, doing mostly only what his will is and not feelings. The choleric is not emotional as the sanguine is and does not need people to make him feel important, unlike the sanguine.
Does any of this relate to you? Are you a goal getter who doesn’t mind the casualties as long as you succeed? Are you easily provoked and irritable? Do you find it difficult to apologise for your wrong? Are you bossy and like pushing people around without being sensitive to their feelings? Are you self-sufficient? Are you tired of people saying, “Oh yes, he’s a goal getter, but I can’t just stand him,” or “He’s too wicked?”
Then here are a few suggestions on how to maximize your strengths to your advantage and minimize your weaknesses.
• Generate a feedback formula from your co-workers, clients, friends and even spouses. Tell them to genuinely rate you in chore areas and tell you the truth about what they wish should change about you and what they hope you never did to them again.
• Check and analyse the common thread of complain among those who have left you in time past and make a conscious decision to begin to practice restrain anytime you see yourself going in that direction.
• Check yourself with guidelines on what to say and what never to say, no matter how angry you get.
• Deliberately schedule your appreciation of a job well done, a kind gesture received or even an effort made to please you by a spouse or an employee.
Again, I still recommend mentorship as this will cover the areas of counselling. It is also an avenue for you to be vulnerable, which will help you connect with your emotions.
With these practices, you will definitely be on your way to a better and more admirable you. Success without any form of admiration leaves you with a feeling of worthlessness at some point in your life, because even though you are successful, nobody wants to be like you. With that comes a vacuum that will leave you empty when you are old and feeble and probably alone too.
Well, if you’re reading this, that’s not going to be you as you now know better. I wish you success in all your endeavours this week and we’ll pick up from here next week.
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Make it a great week… Be a Life Changer!!!