An Osun state Judge, Justice Jide Falola, on Wednesday, advised a 34-year-old woman, Mrs. Adeniji Olajumoke, who sought divorce of his second husband before the court.
Olajumoke had urged the court to separate her and Adeniji Idowu, who she said has been irresponsible in their marriage.
According to the petitioner, she married Idowu who is the second husband in September 6, 2013 and she has not had a peaceful home thereafter.
The petitioner who claimed to be a community health worker at LAUTECH teaching hospital, Ogbomosho, explained that she had a three year old boy and two year old girl for the respondent.
“We have been fighting since I married him. He drinks, keep late and shoulder responsibility on me. He spends his salary on women outside.
“He beats me whenever I refused to give him money out of my salary despite that I take care of the children.
“I usually see women undies at home whenever I returned from where I am doing a course at Osun state University, UNIOSUN.
“I know of one Bose. I saw her picture, receipt of mobile phone my husband bought for her, ultrasound he did for her, among others. I left his home on July 15, 2017 when he threatened to kill me.
When the judge asked why she left her first husband, she said, “I had a seven year old child in my first marriage. I lived together with my first husband until a woman came, threatening me that I snatched her husband and my husband started misbehaving at home.
Advising the petitioner, Justice Falola said, “your attitude is somewhat questionable. You should be able to withstand the stretch in marriage once you opt for it. There should be deliberate effort for a woman to go into marriage even more than that of a man.
“You have allowed your husband to wonder away and be snatched by another woman.
“There are unintended implications of what you are doing. Another man will still come and ask for your hand in marriage, and that would be three men for your children.
“You have to prepare to face battle if you want to make a headway in marriage. I will advise you to sit down and know what you really want in life for your children. Sit down, review your past, consider your tolerance level.
When the court learnt that the respondent has been served the notice but refused to respond, Justice Falola thereby adjourned to November 6, 2017 for judgement