If you’re a woman looking for a committed relationship and you’re currently dating, there is an unfortunate group of men who are not worth your time. You can’t change them or fix them, and you absolutely shouldn’t be pursuing a long-term affair with them.
1. The mama’s boy
Unless you’re looking for someone to take care of, you should run away from these babies. Not only do they want a mama cooking for them, cleaning up after them, and telling them what to do, they expect it. Your days and nights will be spent supporting, comforting, and taking care of a grown man who should be taking care of himself.
2. Lazy mooch
Some men are just plain lazy. Even if they have jobs, they don’t do much else. You see, lazy guys don’t want to do anything that involves the brain (thinking) or physical activity (movement of the body). This is the kind of man who sits around and waits for you to bring him a plate of food, and feels no shame when asking you to “borrow” a few dollars.
3. The jealous/stalk type
No one likes a jealous fool, and a woman should be especially wary of a man who checks her underwear, drives by her house, or thumbs through her iPhone address book. Jealousy is a big, fat ego trip with a bit of insecurity sprinkled in.
4. Shy guy
Okay–so you like the quiet, introverted type. Just don’t expect a lot from him. By a lot, we mean limited (if any) conversation, no social events, parties, or any place where there are more than 3 people around.
5. The cheater
Never mind the fact that most men who cheat will lie about it. What’s even more disheartening is the betrayal, selfishness and lack of respect shown towards the women they’re in relationships with.
6. Violent temper
Every woman likes a guy with an edge. But an explosive temperament is something totally different. A man who yells, punches walls, or squeals his tires as he’s running away, reeks of bad news. And putting his hands on you is a strict NO-NO. If he fiercely defends you, he’s a keeper. If he is fierce towards you, move on to something better.
7. The “I’m not sure if he’s straight” guy
If you have doubts, leave. Don’t think about it, fret over it, or interrogate him. And don’t try to justify staying because he has a body like a Greek god. Just leave.
8. The magician
Ever date a guy who disappears a lot? Many sistas learn the hard way that a man you can’t find is utterly worthless. 1) he has phone numbers you know nothing about; 2) he’s never home and you can’t reach him by phone/e-mail, etc. 3) he rarely tells you where he is; and 4) he always has an excuse for not being available. If you think a guy who disappears a lot has something to hide, he probably does.
9. User/abuser/misuser
Most of us have dated people who either drink or smoke (or both). But hardcore drugs don’t mix well with relationships. This includes illegal drugs, prescription meds, and alcohol abuse. If both of you are users, then maybe you’re a match. But if you’re clean and sober, and he’s getting wasted regularly, it might be time for an intervention.
10. The cheapskate
What can be worse than a man who doesn’t have any money? How about a dude who refuses to spend his money. Whether he’s got a little or a lot, a stingy penny-pincher seldom releases the grip on his wallet–creating a financial migraine for you.
