Following the wide spread feminine psychic trauma associated with stress and depression in recent times, health experts say regular sex for a woman can serve as anti depressant. SADIQ ABUBAKAR writes.
According to a renowned psychiatrist, Dr Maymunah Kadiri, married women are advised to have regular sex with their spouses in order to prevent depression and gain happiness in the process.
Kadiri, who is the medical director of Pinnacle Medical Centre Lagos, gave the advice while interacting with news men recently.
The doctor outlines benefits
According to her, sex is not just to nourish a woman’s body but also beneficial to her mental health and psychological well being.
“As women, there is need for us to make our spouses our best friends if we want to be mentally healthy.
“Studies have shown that women who have more active sex life and long term relationships are less likely to be depressed than women who go about their life without sex and ultimately happiness.
“So, more sex is important and essential. It is a remedy to curing women from having persistent headache and mental stress.
She noted further that, “Low sexual drive, which leads to depression, should be looked into. A woman can be depressed when that sexual drive that she used to have is no more there.
“So, frequent active sex can play good roles toward women’s sense of well being and quality of life”, Kadiri said.
She explained that sex is not just for procreation, but added that it can create great bonding, good companionship and sound sleep for either parties, but more especially for women when the act is healthy.
Kadiri, who is popularly called ‘celebrity shrink’, therefore urged women dealing with mental and psychological depression to frequently indulge in sex because it has the capacity to boost their self-esteem.
According to her, women who are over-weight should also indulge in active sex, saying doing so will boost endorphins which are happy hormones.
“The happy hormones will make them lose some calories and as well sleep better.
“Orgasms trigger the release of endorphins which are happy hormones secreted by the brain that act as effective pain killers”, she said.
She added that sex is not designed to be beneficial only to the men, but especially to women because it is capable of freeing them from stress.
Women corroborate
In reaction to this advice, Blueprint sought the views of a cross section of women in Maiduguri. It was discovered that while a good number of women agreed with the psychologist, others declined to comment out of shy and cultural norm.
Madam Pualina Simon, a petty trader in Maiduguri said, “Yes my brother. This woman is right except that the men hardly ever listen. Only few men know this and that is why the doctor is telling you so that you people can take care of your family.
“It is good for the men to do the right thing and take proper care of their wives especially their health by meeting their needs in order to make them healthy and strong. It’s not only about sex”, Simon said.
Angela Moses of Wulari area of Maiduguri said,” Every man knows the importance of a woman and must pay great concern to her health always.
“Having regular sex with one’s wife by the husbands is very good and naturally makes someone healthy and especially the woman beautiful.
“It is true sex makes a woman beautiful and healthy. You will see that the woman will suddenly be bouncing, happy, bubbling and energetic.
“Even the man himself will feel happy, healthy, looks fine, fulfilled and handsome. Sex is also a good exercise for the body because both the man and woman will look healthy and well.
“All these psychological problems associated with thinking will reduce or automatically stop and the relationship between the man and woman will also be intensified as they will think of themselves all the times and the love too will be strong”.
A student of Ramat Polytechnic Maiduguri, Franca Bassey said, “The doctor is saying the right thing, hence sex with the right person makes someone excited, less stressed, happy and healthy.
“Yes. I know what the doctor means by saying that whenever a man meets his wife or a woman, that woman will feel happy and excited. She will indeed feel different and happy all the day.
“But whenever the man and woman are quarrelling, you will find out that all of them will be frustrated, thinking all the time, looking stressful, unhappy and annoyed with each other and the house too unpeceful which is not good as it can cause sickness or ill- health, as the doctor said.
“So, I suggest that men should always have sex with their wives and make them happy and look healthy for the sake of the marriage and their children”, Bassey said.
A nurse, Safiya Abdul, who works in Specialist Hospital Maiduguri said, “Medically what the doctor said is correct and should immediately be implemented in every home. When husbands have regular sex with their wives, it will help to reduce lot of stress and naturally takes away lots of frustration.
“We have records in the medical and health circle world that sexual intercourse naturally heals stress, frustration and some psychological problems as it reduces chances of frequent issues associated with thinking. Healthy sex brings happiness into a woman’s heart and makes a woman excited and sound”, Abdul said.
A food seller at Jimtilo area of Moronti Maiduguri, Hajiya Yana Buari said, “There is nothing like having an acceptable sexual intercourse with a man that a woman desires.
“You men know better that the moment a woman have sex with her loved one, she feels highly overwhelmed and excited. She tends also to show her joy and sense of fulfillment.
“It makes her to forget all her problems, makes her happy, makes her excited and in fact, feels that man is special and unique to her, if she is satisfied, because there are some women that they do not easily gets satisfied with a man.
“I mean to say that it takes time for her to reach her climax and the moment a woman does not reach her climax when having sexual intercourse a man, she won’t be satisfied well and that may take off all her joy and depression the doctor talked about but where there is maximum satisfaction, it will makes her to forget all her problems at that moment.
“That a woman has prolonged orgasm is a natural thing and not a problem for the men to worry because there are also husbands with similar experience whenever they have intercourse with their wives.
“A good husband makes his partner or wife to enjoy the sexual act rather than put her through agonising moment. Let the whole arrangement be romantic and joyful. It is with this that the woman will feel excited, happy, joy and forget all her stress, frustration and problems”, she said.
A cross section of respondents who spoke with Blueprint, however, said the issue of sex should be restricted to couples only.
